you need to love yourself, before you love someone else
Do I love myself? Some times. Not all the time. There is all this talk about self love and why it is so important. I have realized in my relationships, when I love myself less, I project a negative energy that leads to arguments and insecurities I do not normally have. I am beautiful, but when I do not feel confident – I have no beauty. Why should I not have confidence? Stupid things like a pimple or a runny nose or bloatedness from PMSing. But, those things are temporary! No one can give you confidence, and you cannot learn how to be confident. It is a choice and we can all be confident if we choose.
what does it mean to be pretty?
I believe confidence = pretty. Confidence demands respect and draws success towards you. To have confidence, to demand attention in a graceful manner when you enter the room. To exude the ‘I have my sh*t together and I know what I am doing’ vibe.
how to be pretty
Think about the things you do to make yourself feel pretty. Focus on the ideas of self love. Is it putting on make up? Who gives a crap if this is materialistic and a societal norm. You enjoy the routine. I do. Putting on the layers and looking at your masterpiece. Make up enhances! So if that is where you get your pretty from, rock it! And do not cheat yourself by not doing it!
fake it ’till you make it
So maybe you have no idea what you are doing. You are in school and unsure how a certain concept works or at a new job doing a new task and unsure how to pull it off. Who cares? Did you do the things you need to do for yourself to make yourself feel confident? Yes – well then you are number 1. People will notice your confidence and believe in you, that positive energy will help you to push to do better and better. People will come to you for advice and help, because you look like you have your sh*t together!
That feeling is the bet. I get a high from it. I am so addicted to this feeling of having my life together. And you should be too! Why not? Millennials are lazy, few things motivate us, this is a source of motivation.