regrets + goals

Why you should stop saying sorry

Apr
17

I am learning how to stop saying I am sorry. Sick of having the automatic response in all moments where I feel slightly bad for the person or people involved in my choices.

it means nothing

Think about it, even when you have no control over the situation you end up saying sorry. Like at work, where it is not your fault you don’t have something and say the word when it is not even your responsibility to make sure you have it! Why are you apologizing then? The statement is such a meaningless impulse. We say it just because we know it is polite – but how often do we actually mean it? In my opinion, saying the word makes it obvious you are guilty. Taking responsibility. Admitting you had control in the outcome. Do you? If so, is it necessary to waste time saying sorry? Probably better to use the energy to fix the problem.

actions speak louder than words

-duh

…but, I am sorry!

When is it ok to say it? When you genuinely mean it! . When it is 100% your fault for messing up and are ready to follow with the actions necessary to make up for your mess. Never say sorry for something you have been wanting to do or say. You are an adult and can make your own decisions. The word is for the chain of events following your decisions.


So yes, I may slip up and say sorry when I do not mean it because I have been programmed to do so. However, I am going to make a conscious effort to save my sorry’s for times when I genuinely mean it. If someone decides to read this and you can relate – try it! Using actions to apologize rather than saying a word. See what happens…

xDiana

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Routine: Creating Healthy Habits

Apr
09

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily.

Currently I am analyzing my ‘in a relationship’ daily routine made me realize what was healthy versus unhealthy.

 

The relationship ended because it was not healthy. The point of finding a life partner revolves around someone who builds you up, accepts who you are and is willing to be support you.  They should not be bringing you down and causing unnecessary stress. My old daily routine consisted of maybe 90% time and brain power spent on my ex S/O. I focused on making life as easy as possible for the two of us, hoping for a forever.

The weirdest feeling is going from neglecting my needs and wants, to having all the time in the world to focus on my needs and wants.

what makes me happy?

what do i love to do?

Slowly I am remembering what I love to do and what makes me happy. Creating a routine to occupy my time and force myself to maintain myself and my space. It is so easy to get depressed and lazy following a break up. The way I am avoiding this black hole is by creating schedules and plans to keep myself going.

There is no reason for myself or you for that matter to take a low point of your life (a break up) and make it lower by getting depressed. Go through the emotions and then get up! Why does that person deserve to see your demise. Revenge or not, you deserve to feel amazing and become a better you!

creating healthy habits

I divide my life into these categories:

  • Home
  • Body
  • Relationships
  • ME!

home

Thinking about what chores you have to do. Having a clean space is something I need to schedule into my life. The dishes pile up and the table gets covered with random papers and the bed is never made. None of these sights bring joy to my life and honestly are going to be the hardest bad habits to break. I plan on scheduling my chores starting now. Adapting the habit of making my bed is a routine that makes me happy.

body

Thinking about what makes you feel healthy. Now I can buy only the food I want to eat, so if I want to be unhealthy I can and if I want to be healthy I can. No temptation. Buying whole foods and home cooking make me feel healthy.

relationships

Thinking about the relationships you neglected while being in a romantic relationship. Friendships and family are pushed to the side. It is sad, but you fall in love with a new person and forget about the ones you have already been in love with. Those are the constants and those are the ones you need to show your love to again. Setting up dates with my best friends and spending time with my family more is a routine that makes me happy.

me!

Thinking about what makes you feel like your best self. For myself, I like doing my make up. Not Kardashian crazy, but just emphasizing my features. When I get to look in the mirror with a make up face, I feel like I can take on the world. Making sure I do my make up before I leave the house is a routine that makes me happy.

xDiana

 

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What You Think

Apr
06

What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create. – Buddha

This is that moment you think…I knew this was going to happen. You thought, felt and imagined your reality. Whatever is in your mind controls your actions, obviously you are always choosing, but you are bias to your inner dialogue.

Lets dissect the Buddha quote.

…what you think…you become…

Keep affirming negative and get negative. Keep affirming positive and get positive. Simple. But, how do you control your thoughts? -easiest way- surround yourself with all the good. Figure out what you need, pull it into your life and hold it tight. Gather the good and throw out the bad.

…what you feel…you attract…

What makes you feel shitty? Know it, remember it, and avoid it! Feel fat, eat more, feel tired, sit around. Eat healthy, feel healthy, workout, feel amazing, love yourself, feel like the best version of yourself. Feel good! No matter what ailment – emotional or physical – find a way to appreciate your body and mind + treat it with the most respect.

…what you imagine…you create…

Day dreaming is for adults too! Where do you escape in your mind. As you go through your day, you have your escapes – oh, I wish I had a better/nicer job/car/place. Think of the details and visualize. Focus on that, focus on how good your escape feels and how much better it will feel when it is your reality.

I’ve spent my 23 years realizing this is true, always promising myself and to stay positive, but breaking down when times get rough. Those negative thoughts suffocate the good and have lead me to my new reality…my lowest low.

Time to bounce back.

Time to restart and send out the positive vibes to attract the positive. Excited and nervous. Nervous because I am so used to the negative, it is going to hard to accept the amazingness that I know is to come and I deserve.

Wish me luck…

xDiana

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